Written by BCC Counselor Jin Taek Chung We have all dealt with guilt and shame at some point in our life. The effects of unresolved guilt and shame in our lives can hold us back and weigh us down. So, how do we make sure we are dealing with it appropriately? The way our culture views guilt and shame differ … Read More
How to Help Teens by Asking for Help
Written by BCC Counselor Mark Johnson. There are untold numbers of events in our teens’ lives that cause a crisis: having a brush with law enforcement, tragedies such as death and suicide, betrayal, gender confusion, and so many more.
As parents or grandparents, we look around and ask, “Who can help? How am I supposed to provide my teen help, and how do I get help? Where do I turn?”
How to Help Teens by Listening Well
Written by BCC Counselor Colleen Ryan. “You’re not listening to me!”
“Why don’t you ever listen to me?”
“How come you don’t put down your phone and listen to me!”
Sound familiar?
We live in a culture where there’s so much noise and so many distractions that we are losing the art of listening. We are losing the art of being present and being engaged with thoughtful conversation with those that we are with.
How to Help Teens Learn to Control Their Anger
Written by BCC Counselor Jerrod Tillotson. It can be difficult to know how to express strong emotions appropriately, especially when the strong emotion happens to be anger. In many instances, it seems that it can be more acceptable to be depressed than angry.
But this is something we all experience. Anger is difficult to define, as it can vary in severity from mild irritability to a violent fury.
If you’re a teen in conflict, how do you deal with anger and conflict? Do you tend to explode on others or do you implode, quietly seething, ruminating, eventually burying it away?
How to Help Teens Understand the Consequences of Pornography
Written by BCC Counselor Jim Lang. Most teens in 2021 think porn is no big deal.
In fact, porn is not a big deal to the majority of today’s culture. It’s everywhere and readily available. The world we live in has normalized it. After all, porn has been around since 1896, so what is the big deal anyway?
It has been looked at, shared, and laughed about for a long time. Could the world be right that porn is no big deal?
Pursuing Peace from My Uncertainty
Written by BCC Counselor, Colleen Ryan. Everyone has received life-changing news at some point in their lives. Maybe it was news of a dreaded medical diagnosis, or an unexpected job loss, or the premature death of a loved one.
Sometimes a fairly “certain” future becomes “uncertain” and we’re left to wonder: How do I pursue peace with an uncertain future?
When the future is uncertain, it’s so easy for us to become consumed with worry, anxiety, or fear. Since we can’t control the future, our imagination feeds our fears.
Pursuing Peace in My Family
Written by BCC Counselor, Mark Johnson. “Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive.”
Conflict in families is as old as families themselves. We don’t have to look very far in our own past to find instances where our family conflict gets the best of us.
We know that we should love our neighbor as ourselves, but on occasion, we treat our family worse than how we treat our neighbors.
4 Keys to Establishing New Habits for 2021
Written by BCC Counselor Jim Lang When we reach a new year, it’s natural to want a fresh start. After the hardships of 2020, this sentiment holds true for many. So how do we, as followers of God, change our unwanted behaviors and actions? How does the Word of God instruct us in matters of transforming these behaviors and actions? … Read More
And Then They Grew Up – Relationships with Adult Children
Written by BCC Counselor, Colleen Ryan. Relating in healthy ways with adult children can be a challenge, especially during the holiday seasons. Parents must learn to transition from being an authority to becoming an influence, and this balance is tough for many. This post from BCC Counselor Colleen Ryan lays out practical principles that help parents impact their children in the right ways and avoid the traps that lead to further pain and distance.
