“I don’t have an anger problem” he repeatedly protested in my counseling office. “I don’t swear, break things, threaten harm, or even raise my voice. How can my wife say that I have an “anger” problem? Sure, I get frustrated like everyone but I stay under control – I do not have an anger issue.” Over the years, we have … Read More
Being Angry in the Right Way (Part 1)
Anger is what we feel when we could easily say with our words, “I am against that.” God created us as people who are capable of feeling, expressing, and acting in anger. However, many of us fear that our expressions of anger hurt more than they help. Many people make it their goal to avoid feeling anger altogether, by avoiding … Read More
Celebrating Success: How Online Counseling can Help You
Life is hard enough in “normal” times. Many people reach out for counseling to address issues of anxiety, depression, and relational guidance. During this the “new normal” experience of the COVID-19 response, we have seen an uptick in counseling needs. Ironically, in-person counseling has taken a backseat to video counseling for many. As a biblical counselor, I am highly interested … Read More
What “The Last Dance” teaches us about family dynamics
The Last Dance documentary about the Chicago Bulls didn’t disappoint. I moved to Chicago in 1989 as a 12-year-old boy, terrible at basketball, but still sporting a pair of Air Jordan’s that I had to earn half the money for. (My parents thought $80 for a pair of shoes was ridiculous.) I thoroughly enjoyed watching this documentary and remembering that … Read More
Help for Quarantined Marriages
Editors Note: Jeff and Sarah Walton are local authors and we asked them to share this guest post to encourage marriages to look beyond our immediate circumstances and trust in God through this storm we are all facing. Their latest book, “Together through the Storms” released on May 1st. In the book, they give testament to the goodness of God, … Read More
A PLAN for Times of Crisis
We never know when times of crisis will come. No one could have ever predicted what 2020 would hold for us. However, most times of crisis don’t come in the form of a global pandemic. They are more often experienced more locally. Think about these fairly common crisis situations that you may face as a leader. A church building experiences … Read More
What Brings Us Hope this Easter
This is a different Easter than usual for all of us. Elaborate services, fancy dresses, family parties, and abundant chocolate have given way to simplicity, quiet, and even sadness. As the friends of Jesus walked to the tomb that Easter morning, I’d imagine that there was a sense of quiet and sadness as well. They were not anticipating hope, but found it … Read More
4 Things to Evaluate in Conflict
As a counselor, I get to observe my share of conflicts. Frankly as a parent and church member, I get a close up view of conflict as well. Conflict seems to be a constant in our culture, homes, churches, and relationships. We may go through seasons of peace, but we never seem to completely outrun the long arm of conflict. … Read More
Truth about Death
This Coronavirus Pandemic has brought the fear of dying to the forefront for so many! Death is scary for most, terrifying for some, but longed for by others! Why do we all have such differing and even conflicting views of death? And what is God’s perspective? To start with, God hates death and values death! Psalm 116: 15, “Precious in the … Read More
