Married to a passive husband? We’ve all heard of the “perfect” husband. He’s attentive and understanding, a lover of the home. And you’ve also read sick stories of wife beaters and serial adulterers. Disgusting! But what if your guy falls has simply “checked out”? Life with him isn’t horrible but it’s lonely. What’s a wife to do? Let’s first see if … Read More
Never Recover
When you have faced a grievous wrong, it can feel like your enemies have pushed you face-down on the ground, pushing your face into the mud. This is a picture of things that are still having effects in the present: searing pain, unhealed wounds, feeling wronged by people in powerful places. How do we heal from sufferings that remain fresh over … Read More
When Counseling the Sexually Violated
Counseling a sexually violated woman is heart-breaking and hopeful, for her and for the counselor. This article by Lucy Ann Moll, D.Min., a BCC counselor who counsels worldwide by Skype/FaceTime/Zoom, appeared first on her website. Sexually violated women are real people with real and tragic stories. But there is hope. Perhaps you’re counseling a sexually violated woman now. Or maybe … Read More
Power of the Positive
Mental energy is derived from positive thinking. Negative thoughts can help to direct our attention to important needs that are not being met. It could be a need for food, rest, or an imminent threat of danger that is presenting itself to us. Amanda’s thinking needed serious help. Amanda had a very negative way of looking at the world. It robbed … Read More
Wearing a miniskirt to the wedding?
Our lives as Christians are essentially pre-marital counseling preparing us for a wonderful wedding. All of us are the bride who will finally and eternally be united to our groom, Jesus Christ. Indeed, our lives on earth are the means God uses for a deeper goal. God’s Glorious Plan We can tend to conclude God doesn’t love us, or has … Read More
Life as a Wife
I find it very interesting that we have no record of Adam asking God for a mate, yet God knew he needed a wife and provided just what he needed! Many husbands still remain clueless to how much they really need us – LOL! But God knows, and God built into marriage a teamwork plan that really blesses couples who … Read More
“I am the Lover of my Home!”
I cannot count the number of times I’ve heard men demand to be the leaders of their home, characterizing their role as that of the boss, with their wife expected to follow and respect them as a private would submit to his commanding office, unquestioning. Men may even abuse the intended meaning of the phrase in Eph 5:23, “the husband … Read More
How is the warmth of your relationships?
Last week in Chicago we set records for cold weather, and the hero of my week was my new gas furnace. Despite having -50° wind-chill, our family stayed warm during the 48 hours straight that we stayed inside. One of life’s realities is that relationships, like a heater in the brutal cold, take work to stay warm. If we ignore … Read More
5 Signs of Unhealthy Church Leadership
When people leave a difficult and painful church, they often ask in counseling, “Is this normal?” “Am I crazy or over-reacting?” “Is this unhealthy church leadership?” It’s a difficult question to answer without knowing all the details. However, I’ve been in that situation, and I’ve found it helpful to share what I’ve been learning since then. Shortly after I completed my … Read More
