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Challenges of a Working Mom

With an increasing number of Moms working outside the home there are multiple challenges of maintaining a biblical balance of roles as wife, mother, and employee. God desires that whatever we do, either by choice or necessity, that we do it all for His glory (1Co 10:31) in every setting, and in each of the varied tasks of a working Mom's day.

Quite often as working Moms we think we are responsible to meet every need our child presents to us. When we find ourselves unable to fulfill this selfimposed expectation we believe we are guilty of poor parenting, resulting in feelings of shame, anxiety, or even depression. In response to these perceived failures we may try and make up for them by indulging our children with too many material goods, or by withholding discipline and minimizing our expectations of them. Unfortunately, neither of these options produces good fruit in our children. Instead we need to prioritize our daily decisions and activities and live with confidence in each role to honor God and do what is best for our families (Dt 6).

Often we feel pulled in a number of different directions and struggle with where to put our time and attention - to the soccer game or to that important business dinner? Thankfully, God has not left us ""hanging"" to decide individually what is most important. He is first, and governs all other relationships. Our horizontal priorities are to spouse, to children, to fellow believers, and to those to whom God has given us ministry within the church and work settings.

As working Moms it is very important to capitalize on the time that we do have with our husband. We must schedule alone times to talk without interruption,and occasionally, put the kids to bed a little earlier and watch a movie (other than a cartoon) together. Carve out regular date times, and short of an emergency, we must not let anyone or anything else steal that time.

With our children we must remember to keep our minds fixed on what we're presently doing with them. Making cookies with your daughter while thinking through an office project results in distraction for you and frustration for your child, and it doesn't get the office job done either! Times like commuting to school provide opportunities to talk to our kids. Leave the radio off and ask them about their day before you get home and distracted. Get them involved with you in making dinner or doing chores in the same room so conversation can still be possible. If they can concentrate, have them do homework at the kitchen table so they can ask you questions and you can stay familiar with what's going on in school. Schedule individual time with each child to give them your personal attention.

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